By Rachel Voysey, Registered Psychologist, The Relationship Room
Dating as a single parent? Yeah, it’s like stepping into a whole new world—one where your emotions, family drama, and life’s nonstop hustle all collide in the most unpredictable way. Your heart might be itching for some new sparks, but between the kids, baggage, and endless to-do lists, diving back in can feel like trying to juggle flaming swords. No pressure, right?
Here’s the real deal: you’re far from alone. According to the Australian Bureau of Statistics, one in 6 families roll solo, and over 80% of those are mums flying the ship solo. So, the struggle of balancing being both the ultimate caregiver and your own person isn’t just yours, it’s a shared reality. And spoiler alert: you deserve more than just stability. You deserve feeling alive again.
Whether you’re fresh out of a relationship or it’s been a hot minute since your last swipe, here’s how to rock the dating game without losing your mind (or your child’s trust):
- Get Real with Yourself First
Before you jump headfirst into the dating pool, ask yourself: what do I want? A casual fling? Something serious? Or just seeing where the chips fall? When you’re clear on your game plan, you avoid those messy “Wait, what are we doing here?” moments.
2. Own Your Single Parent Status from Day One
Don’t shy away or hide your parental role like it’s some dirty secret. Say it loud, say it proud (but chill). The right people will get it. And those who don’t? They aren’t worth your time or energy.
3. Guard Your Time Like a Boss
Between school drop-offs, soccer practice, and bedtime stories, your schedule is sacred. Don’t overcommit or stretch yourself thin. Pick quality dates that fit your life—because your time and energy are gold.
4. Kids Come First—But Introduce Dates Smartly
You don’t need to parade every date in front of your kids. But when things get real, give them a heads-up that’s age-appropriate and reassuring. Kids handle change better when they feel safe and included, not blindsided.
5. Dump the Guilt and Enjoy It
Guilt is a sneaky beast, especially if you’re navigating fresh wounds from a breakup or loss. But newsflash: your feelings matter. You’re not just a parent—you’re a person craving connection, fun, and yes, even love.
A 2023 survey from Relationships Australia found nearly half of single parents feel nervous about dating, mostly worrying about their kids’ reactions and whether they’re “ready.” But with some honesty, boundaries, and a splash of self-love, dating can be a win-win – not just for you, but for your whole family.
Whether you’re just testing the waters or ready to dive in, take your time, trust your gut, and remember, you can have room for love and family, without losing your mind.
